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10 Reasons Keeping Score Is So Dangerous for a Marriage

In maintaining rating a partner is establishing limits to how a lot they’re keen to forgive. The Apostle Peter thought there have been limits, too. “Then Peter got here to Jesus and requested, ‘Lord, what number of instances shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins in opposition to me? Up to seven instances?’” (Matthew 18:21)

Peter in all probability thought he was being extraordinarily beneficiant in his supply to forgive seven instances, however “Jesus answered, ‘I inform you, not seven instances, however seventy-seven instances’” (Matthew 18:22).

How many instances do spouses consider they’ve forgiven one another for former transgressions till one thing new occurs? New grievances set off an avalanche of previous wrongdoings, so as an alternative of responding with love, forgiveness, and luxury, they lash out with a listing of all their failures.

Sadly, unforgiveness results in hardness of coronary heart, which is so harmful and harmful in marriage, as a result of as Jesus defined in Matthew 19:8, a hardened coronary heart leads {couples} to divorce.

8. Keeping Score Fails the Love Test

Although normally simpler stated than finished in any relationship, and sometimes extra so in marriage, Jesus stated, “A brand new commandment I give to you, that you simply love each other, at the same time as I’ve beloved you, that you simply additionally love each other” (John 13:34).

Keeping rating reveals a lack of loving a partner like God loves us. If we really love Him, we’ll display it by loving our partner.

Often {couples} suppose this commandment applies to everybody however their partner, but when we’re failing to like our partner, we’re probably failing to like God and others too.

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