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10 Things the Bible Says About Narcissism and Identifying Narcissists

Narcissism is outlined as having an extreme curiosity in or admiration for oneself and in a single’s bodily look. The phrase, though seemingly fashionable, has been round for a really very long time. In Greek Mythology, Narcissus was identified for his magnificence and a fixation on himself and his outer look. The story advised about him is, after seeing his reflection in a pool of water, he fell in love as if it had been one other human being.

Havelock Ellis, an English doctor who studied human sexuality, first recognized the phrase narcissus-like and pathological self-absorption in 1897. Paul Adolf Näcke, a German psychiatrist and criminologist, was the first individual to make use of the time period narcissism, in 1899. And then in 1914, Sigmund Freud revealed a whole paper to the matter, On Narcissism: An Introduction.

The Apostle Paul recognized and described narcissism in 2 Timothy someday between 90 and 140 A.D. This divine knowledge has introduced us to the place we’re at this time, the place psychologists and psychological well being professionals have recognized 9 narcissistic traits, outlined in the DSM-5. Licensed professionals, with the skill to diagnose psychological well being problems, should see no less than 5 of the 9 standards to label somebody with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (or NPD).

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The Nine Traits of Narcissism

1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g. exaggerates achievements and skills, expects to be acknowledged as superior with out commensurate achievements).

2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of limitless success, energy, brilliance, magnificence, or ultimate love.

3. Believes that they’re “particular” and distinctive and can solely be understood by, or ought to affiliate with, different particular or high-status folks (or establishments).

4. Requires extreme admiration.

5. Has a way of entitlement (i.e., unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable therapy or computerized compliance with their expectations).

6. Is interpersonally exploitative (i.e., takes benefit of others to realize their very own ends).

7. Lacks empathy: is unwilling to acknowledge or determine with the emotions and wants of others.

8. Is usually envious of others or believes that others are envious of them.

9. Shows conceited, haughty behaviors or attitudes.

How the Apostle Paul Describes Narcissism

Knowing and understanding the 9 traits of NPD helps us to know what Paul prophesied to occur in the finish instances. In 2 Timothy 3:2-5, he wrote, “People can be lovers of themselves, lovers of cash, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their mother and father, ungrateful, unholy, with out love, unforgiving, slanderous, with out self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, immodest, lovers of enjoyment quite than lovers of God—having a type of godliness however denying its energy. Have nothing to do with such folks.”

Let’s break this down level by level to know narcissism at its core.

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What Does the Bible Say about Narcissists?

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1. They Are Lovers of self

Self-absorbed folks will look in the mirror and admire their outward magnificence; falling in love with themselves. They assume they’re extra particular than others, or must be given particular therapy. They might spend extreme quantities of time and cash on their look to proceed to get this therapy. They fantasize about having every thing they need in life with out restrictions or having to work for it.

2. They Are Lovers of cash

Along with their love of themselves is their love of cash. Having cash or the look of getting cash makes up for something they could be missing of their bodily look and their character. They can persuade people who they’re profitable and even variety due to their skill to buy massive and costly objects or donate to impress. This look of wealth makes them really feel admiration. They assume others are envious of them, whereas they’re secretly envious of people that have extra money, energy, or success than they do.

3. They Are Boastful, Proud, and Conceited

Having bodily magnificence and/or cash may cause an individual to be boastful, proud, entitled, and immodest. They are “preoccupied with fantasies of limitless success, energy, brilliance, magnificence, or ultimate love.” They need to be admired for what they’ve or how they give the impression of being, in order that they flaunt it hoping for consideration.

4. They Are Abusive and brutal

Narcissism may cause an individual to be abusive and merciless. They are sometimes controlling and anticipate to have all the energy in any relationship; the causes behind emotional and bodily abuse. They lack empathy for the way they could be treating one other individual or what that individual could also be going by way of as a result of they’re so consumed with themselves. When they don’t get their manner, they imagine they’ve the proper to punish the individual for standing in the manner. They additionally don’t prefer to be known as out for his or her dangerous habits, so they’ll rage when confronted with the reality about themselves.

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5. They Are Disobedient to Parents

While youngsters are younger, needing 100% of their wants supplied for, mother and father can grow to be a god-like individual of their baby’s life. And as the baby ages, mother and father train their baby the best way to obey the loving authority over them, which is God. Someone with narcissistic traits doesn’t need to respect anybody in authority and definitely doesn’t need to take heed to knowledge. They need to do precisely what they had been advised to not do, out of riot. And they imagine they’ve a proper to go towards all authority as a result of they’re the final authority over their very own lives; they imagine themselves to be a god.

6. They Are Ungrateful

People with narcissism will not be grateful, grateful, and even content material with what they’ve. It’s simply not sufficient. It’s by no means sufficient. They at all times need extra. They want extra to be comfortable; and then, much more to proceed to be comfortable. It’s like an dependancy. Many instances in the event that they don’t get what they need, they’ll discover a option to manipulate or take what doesn’t belong to them.

7. They Are Unholy (Sinful), Rash, and Treacherous

They don’t concern God or His punishment for unrepentant sins. They might not even have respect for earthly legal guidelines, which have been put in place by God, who’s the Sovereign Head total. They usually solely encompass themselves with individuals who settle for and allow their sinful methods, by no means telling them they need to make higher selections. In dysfunctional households, the sinful individual will anticipate everybody to cowl up the reality to proceed to place up the appearances that they’re an ideal household, what they painting to the outdoors world.

8. They Are Without Love and Not Lovers of Good

Love is affected person and variety, not self-seeking, or simply angered. Narcissism is the reverse of every thing written in 1 Corinthians 13. Relationships fail once they’re entangled with narcissism. When somebody is so in love with themselves, they’re unable to like God and love others. They’re so targeted on what they’re going to get from the different individual, not what they may give or how they are often loving or good. If they act lovingly, it’s solely as a result of they’re anticipating to get one thing in return for his or her act. Unselfish love is real love. I’m not sure if someone with narcissism is capable of true love.

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9. They Are Unforgiving

They get pleasure from and gravitate in the direction of forgiving, passive folks, that’s why they cover nicely in a church surroundings. But they’re unable to forgive even minor offenses, particularly by these closest to them. They preserve an entire checklist of wrongs achieved to them by others as if it’s ammunition to get again at that individual sometime. When confronted with their misbehavior or sin, they’ll throw again any incorrect achieved to them, irrespective of how huge or small or how way back it occurred. Grace and mercy are anticipated however not given out to others.

10. They Are Lovers of Pleasure Rather Than Lovers of God

They gravitate in the direction of lusts of the flesh as an alternative of getting self-control or dwelling inside God’s will for his or her life. It’s fascinating to notice that Dr. Ellis and Dr. Näcke, who described narcissism in the late 1800s, at first solely referenced people who handled their physique as a sexual object of their writings. All the different pathological self-absorption traits had been added later.

King Solomon Describes Narcissism in the Book of Proverbs

“The concern of the Lord is the starting of information, however fools despise knowledge and instruction.” – Proverbs 1:7

“The tongue of the sensible adorns information, however the mouth of the idiot gushes folly.” – Proverbs 15:2

“The depraved settle for bribes in secret to pervert the course of justice. A discerning individual retains knowledge in view, however a idiot’s eyes wander to the ends of the earth. A silly son brings grief to his father and bitterness to the mom who bore him.” – Proverbs 17:23-25

“Before a downfall the coronary heart is haughty, however humility comes earlier than honor.” – Proverbs 18:12

“Though their speech is charming, don’t imagine them, for seven abominations fill their hearts. Their malice could also be hid by deception, however their wickedness can be uncovered in the meeting.” – Proverbs 26:25-26

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What Does the Bible Say about How We Should Relate to People with Narcissism?

Timothy acknowledged,

“They are the variety who worm their manner into houses and achieve management over gullible ladies, who’re loaded down with sins and are swayed by every kind of evil wishes, at all times studying however by no means capable of come to a information of the reality. Just as Jannes and Jambres opposed Moses, so additionally these academics oppose the reality. They are males of wicked minds, who, so far as the religion is worried, are rejected. But they won’t get very far as a result of, as in the case of these males, their folly can be clear to everybody.” (2 Timothy 3:6-9)

An individual with narcissistic traits has chameleon-type skills to make anybody imagine they’ve an honorable character. But behind closed doorways, they are often hot-tempered, abusive, and misleading, which must be averted so that you don’t get entangled (Proverbs 22:24-25). They are compulsive liars and can simply idiot even the most religious Christian to imagine their allure and treachery whereas encouraging you to comply with their methods.

“I urge you, brothers and sisters, to be careful for many who trigger divisions and put obstacles in your manner which are opposite to the instructing you’ve got discovered. Keep away from them. For such persons are not serving our Lord Christ, however their very own appetites. By easy speak and flattery, they deceive the minds of naive folks.” (Romans 16:17-18)

It may be very arduous to know if the individual is real in what they’re saying, or if it’s all only a present to get what she or he desires. You have to attend to see long-term repentance earlier than reconciling or giving your full belief of their phrases. You will know somebody’s coronary heart by the fruit of their lives. Sometimes it’s finest to go away the individual in God’s fingers and let Him carry the reality into the gentle for all to see, or transfer that individual into true repentance when you work in your therapeutic, bodily and emotionally away from that individual and their darkness.

“Let nobody deceive you with empty phrases, for due to such issues God’s wrath comes on those that are disobedient. Therefore don’t be companions with them. For you had been as soon as darkness, however now you’re gentle in the Lord. Live as youngsters of sunshine (for the fruit of the gentle consists in all goodness, righteousness, and reality) and discover out what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, however quite expose them. It is shameful even to say what the disobedient do in secret. But every thing uncovered by the gentle turns into seen—and every thing that’s illuminated turns into a light-weight.” (Ephesians 5:6-14)

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Jen GriceJen Grice is a divorce coach and writer of the books, You Can Survive Divorce and Your Restoration Journey about restoration and redemption after divorce. After her personal undesirable divorce in 2013, Jen began a ministry to encourage and empower Christian ladies to not solely survive however thrive after divorce attributable to adultery, abuse, or abandonment. You can be taught extra about her ministry at JenGrice.com. Jen may also be discovered on YouTube speaking about making ready for and divorcing a narcissist. And her books may be discovered at B&N or on Amazon.

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